EGO

Before writing this Post....i was in dilemma whether this is the right topic for my next post...There are always two ways in which u can approach a subject,thing,person,decision what ever..one is with ur heart and one is with your brains...Some times brain n heart will think and act similarly..but some times there will be a conflict between them on a same topic...In this case also my heart and brain had a conflict.Heart was saying don't go for the topic but my brains was constantly stimulating or sending impulses to my hand to write on this topic...So at last i decided to be with my brains...

 EGO-> Exaggerated Glorification of Oneself
(Courtesy Antony George Pattara)

This is the expansion which one of my friend has given for EGO...
I am not sure whether EGO is an abbreviation or a word itself..
But once i saw the expansion of Word Ego i felt like its 101% correct...

When you browse on this topic in Internet...you can find different explanations given by different people in different ways...

Medical Dictionary says -> Ego means : the self especially as contrasted with another self or the world

Cultural Dictionary says -> The “I” or self of any person

I was believing that EGO is born with us...But after having a small study on this topic...There are three parts of the psychic apparatus

1) ID
2) EGO
3) Super EGO

In that ID compromises the basic pleasures or can say it acts according to pleasure principle and it is unorganised.

But EGO is one step higher to ID.It is organized as well as  it acts according to reality principle

Super EGO aim for perfection ,its is the one which controls our sense of Right,Wrong & Guilt.

These are the technical things which i understood about EGO.

I don't know whether its good manner to think on a topic too much..But i am person who thinks too much..sometimes it will be some productive thinking sometimes it's bootless or can be very clearly say "Waste of Time"...During my thinking process i will always have a self analysis...Normally these self analysis process happens each and every day.During that time i can clearly say what are things which i done correct on that day or what are the things which would have been avoided.But all through this process i was clearly knowing one thing that i am becoming more "Egoistic"...

After doing something wrong and doing an argument to make ur part safe n clarified doesn't need much courage...(Any idiot can do that)That's when we just see and evaluate things with emotions and heart...But doing something wrong and to accept what u did is wrong need some courage.To accept that fact we should not have EGO....That's when we evaluate things with our brains...I know everyone who read this know this fact.But the point is that how many of us have that courage or open mindedness...to accept something which we did is wrong or is a mistake...I can say very few.....(Don't know how many agree to that)...

But there is one Strong reason for me why i wrote this blog on the later part i will come to that...But when i found my Egos is at it's Hike i just felt to get out of that... I never like to be one with Unnecessary Ego's....

Every man has his own Egos' and it varies from person..some issues which one feel silly might be the Ego of other...So there is no point in saying that others have EGO...Because that is something like Keeping Match stick in ur eye and saying other is having dust in his Eyes....So better way is once u realise that you are Egoistic which is lil more than that of a normal level try to find a way out of it...

EGO is very powerful so that it can make u do anything..
I personally feel that you become more Egoistic when u feel that you are not Inferior to any other around u...but it neither can be called as Superiority feeling.For me its some thing like a feeling of Equality...But then you will be thinking how equality can be a Ego.Because in our concept "Equality is a nice n wonderful concept" But when the situation change this Equality can more or less like an "EGO"

Just for an example only i am saying...not at all from my personal experience

A Women one who always believes in Equality got married to a person who always consider girls are always inferior to guys in that case "Equality is an EGO of that Women" which that husband can never agree with.
(Lucky my husband is one who gives me my space to live and give me my freedom to express)

I was person who never likes to hurt any one's feeling..But now i cannot say with my whole heart that i am not hurting anyone..Sometimes knowingly or unknowingly i might be hurting someone or the other..it might be my Husband ,Parents, Friends,Cousin, Colleagues..

But mistakes which we do unknowingly won't keep us more Egoistic because we will be ready to say "Sorry" on that ,but the mistakes which we do knowingly will make us more n more Egoistic..Because a simple word "Sorry" will make us feel miserable.We will have the feeling that we are defeated...But once we are out of the Ego and think that Simple "Sorry will keep us so much higher"

I already told i am person who doesn't like to hurt others feeling.I am person who's turn off is "Teasing" now all of u will be thinking "How Silly" I accept the fact that its silly but unfortunately my turn off is teasing..For me teasing is the thing which makes me more egoistic.

I told u there is a reason y i wrote this blog..Some days some comments in FB made me soo disturbed....At that point of time i was seeing that comment with more of an Ego..and some times will comment back in a way which make my EGO satisfied and may hurt the other person..I had prolonged fights on some unnecessary issues.But now i understand i should have been more logical & spotty...and now i really  want to see things in much a spotty spirit.

Here i will quote one simple eg...

"I never want He/She to be hurt"

With accepting  the fact that i should not have commented like this...
I am quoting a Comment Session on one of My Album..
But at that time i commented with EGO...I am saying sorry for that too!!! I know he/she might have commented in a very very spotty way and was just fun..n i am the one who took it seriously...

X Says : edi cut cheythu thinnoode....orumaathiri pattikuttikale pole...che che

Me Says :I am happy does I look like Tuttu;)
Not in comment for ur info (Tuttu is a doggy)

X  Says : aiyyada...avanu ithilum dignity ondu 

Me Says : i don't know... with what u measure Dignity ?????????????any way i have self respect n mutual respect ..in that sense i am dignified :)

The word Dignity and comparison with a doggy made me "Egoistic"

I don't know whether my comment has hurt her/him..But my Ego spoiled my whole day..From that point i decided i should find a way out of these kind of Worthless EGO's which won't help me in any way and won't take me any where.....

I know someone will be rushing to find who is that "X"
But don't rush i already deleted the comment n publish this post hehehehhe :)

"I am saying a 10000 times sorry if i hurt X in a word or a deed"
Because i clearly know its my mistake..More over X is one among my best friends i always love n admire...


Last but not the least a word to one who njoy and act as the catalyst to unwanted arguments n pulling others leg on Public Platform Just ".... Off"

 EGO is miserable not only to u but for others also....So once u realise it get Rid of It.... Accept mistake always be open for corrections....I think my post will make at least one person to think...If not also i don't bother...Because i am on the way out of my EGO....Yippee!!!!!!!